- Nayda Cruz
The Impostor Syndrome
These past few days I have been feeling a little “emotionally stuck”. And just as Yoda said in Star Wars, one bad emotion leads to another bad emotion. And usually, we are our most harsh critics.
The other day I was watching “Frozen II” and at some point, Anna says to Elsa “When will you see yourself as I see you?”. That made me think how the perception of oneself changes when we see ourselves through the eyes of the person that loves us the most. What would that person say about us? Probably positive, nice and lovely things. That person probably knows our darkest sides and flaws. But still, they love us because of our goodness. For the what's inside of us.
I am sure that for every negative thought that I have about myself, they would have a good one. Probably the antonym and probably merciful words on how to be better.
So, for every “emotionally stocking” thought, I will think of one person who loves me and how they have showed it to me. How would it hurt them to know me to think badly about myself? I wouldn’t like for them to be sad because of me.
Because of their love for me I would love them back by being my best self. Having the right concept about me. To be generous with my strengths and merciful with my flaws. And most of all by loving myself. Because if I am not capable to love myself, I have nothing to offer, I can’t love them back.
So, impostor syndrome, step aside, you are not real. Real is the love that I receive and give.
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